Stop for a moment and think about your group of girlfriends. Chances are, you can easily pinpoint the one friend who seems perpetually unlucky in love (it may even be you). Yet, she’s one of the most intelligent, well-rounded, and beautiful people you know.
So what gives?
Turns out, it might just be all of those amazing qualities that are keeping her from finding love.
She has built-in jerk repellent.
By default, your ultra-intuitive bestie can detect anything toxic from a mile away. Hence, why men looking for a woman to accept their BS behavior steer clear. While most would consider this a good thing, this no-tolerance policy might make them miss out on a solid relationship. The truth is, everyone is going to disappoint you at some point in your life, and granting second chances (within reason) isn’t only healthy, it’s necessary.
Some guys don’t know how to handle intimidating women, let alone date them. Often times, people perceive confidence as arrogance and allow their feelings to be skewed by their own insecurity. If people are intimidated by you, own that. Be kind. Be strong. Be unapologetically you.
She’s independent AF
Let me begin with, if he can’t handle his girl having her independence – he’s not worth a second thought.
The truth is, some men naturally desire to be needed in the relationship. So, any sign that this woman can handle her own business and doesn’t need him is a huge blow to the ego. Ultimately, his insecurity in his manhood will be crippling to the relationship.
You’re not getting any BS past her.
You’re not getting anything past this girl. She’s ALWAYS on her game and can hear lies coming from your mouth before you’ve even spoken. So – why exactly are you wasting her time and yours?
She’s super picky because she knows her worth.
When a woman is picky it doesn’t always mean she’s judgmental; more often than not it just means she just knows what she wants. Or perhaps more appropriately, she knows what she doesn’t want.
Sometimes she doesn’t have control over her intensity – and that’s ok. She’s an intense lover, storyteller, friend, and communicator. She’s an open book with her life, and often times, her transparency can be overwhelming to those that don’t share the same level of passion. Whether her mood is good, bad, or ugly…she does them all with the same level of intensity.
She has REAL
Often times, women who are making their dreams come true focus less on love, and more on reaching personal milestones. Whether that be in career, fitness, or academia, her motivation sets her apart. She’s not someone you swipe right or left on. She’s someone you dive head first with, or you don’t dive at all.
She’s the most mature woman in the room, in every room.
She’s balanced. She doesn’t gossip or dwells on negativity. She knows what you think of her is none of her concern. She likes who she is and she’s not changing.
So, she sits waiting.
Waiting for someone to match her level of poise. And you know what, she might wait a lifetime. But she’s ok with it. Relationships are challenging enough as is, she’d rather be alone than to spend even a second attempting to fit a square peg into a round hole.
While men scour aimlessly digging through the rough, she’s the diamond just below the surface waiting to be found.
If a man knows what he’s looking for, he won’t be distracted by anything less than what he sought out to find. And when he finds her, he’ll have never been so glad she sat there waiting.
Waiting patiently for him, just below the surface.
Whether this article resonates with you personally or reminds you a friend – know that her time will come, if she waits for it.
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